Where does love fly after wedding?02.09.2019

Nesaderīgās attiecībās katrs vezumu velk uz savu pusi…

Everyone wants to find love…

Love is one of the biggest resources of energy for any human,. People in love can triple their energy, being able to dedicate themselves to another person or even risking their lives. Love doesn’t contain hate. If you really love someone, you don’t look for flaws in them. Truthfully and deeply people fall in love only in a compatible couple. Sadly, short-term flings and sexual attraction is misinterpreted as truthful and deep love.

But why does love disappear so fast after starting a life together? Why are flaws searched in the partner?

If there was a power that could teach socionics to everyone in a short period of time, a lot of unfortunate relationships wouldn’t have appeared. People would be able to predict the upcoming disagreements and the causes of them.

There are no bad people; however, there exists an incompatibility between people due to uncomplementarity of sociotypes.

Socionics divides people into 16 sociotypes. For a moment you can fall in love with anyone. Longlasting love can only appear in a compatible couple; however, they are very few. Having seen photos in our galleries you will ascertain that the most stabile couples are in dual and activation relationships.

Look for your dual and activator in your quadra! Remember, that the society can be divided into four quadras which are like comfortable families. If you are an ethical type there are only two compatibles for you in your quadra and both of them are logical types. And vice verse – if you are a logical than there are only two ethical type compatibles for you from your quadra.

The other two relationships in your quadra are not meant for living together! Mirror and identical relationships are meant only for professional development and rising children.

To understand compatibility better, quite often we ask people, “How do you think can a buck merry a sheep? They both look so similar!” Of course, people respond clearly – no!

A similar question might be asked to a driver, “Imagine what will you do on the road if suddenly, in a sparsely inhabited place, the tire of your Volvo explodes and you don’t have a spare tire. Will you continue the ride with a tire of antique car offered by a farmer?” You will clearly say that it is not possible. With such a tire you can only get to the nearest repair service.

These examples can be reflected to the compatibility of the 16 sociotypes. For a short period of time you can be in touch with any of them, and this may not impact your physical and mental health. However, this is not acceptable in family life, when you have to be in touch with an incompatible person on daily basis.

As soon as you live together with an incompatible partner, you start to recognize flaws in their character. You should keep in mind that in an incompatible relationship people put themselves under a great risk. When everyday life of spouses is full of disagreements, assaults and exchange of sharp words, it is nor rare that the people get sick with untreatable diseases. Most common are stomach diseases, heart diseases – stroke, heart attack, nerve diseases, higher blood pressure, thyroid diseases and malignant tumours.

You have to remember that as soon as you choose a partner from another quadra, disagreements will definitely appear eventually.

Often people ask questions with a hope to a positive resolution, “If I and my partner have found out our sociotypes, does socionics give receipts so that we could get along? For example, Robespierre with Huxley?”

We could present an answer, “Will any of you be able to radically change the program of your life? No, you won’t be able to do so! Since both of you won’t change, but stand by your opinion. The tension between you will only grow.”

Our latest studies show that nowadays in Latvia the most popular marriage is between Dostoevsky and Huxley who make mirror relationship in the fourth quadra. As a proof of that, on 19 April an article appeared in local news portal Apollo, “Do I cut my husband by saw too often”. After reading it, it is easy to distinguish that sociotypes involved – the saw is held by the wife – Huxley, who considers her husband Dostoevsky not important. They share same archetypical role in intimate relationships which is child; however, wife says she has to be like a mother at times. You will be able to see it for yourself in our article, “Sex – who is compatible with whom in bed?”

I can only cheer up that couple who is still suffering! You are not bad. You both need but a compatible partner, Gabin or Shtirlitz. Surely you will be the best for them as well.